Well after people get over the fact that I’m hardly home (but always reppin’), they ask, as a nomad, how I will ever establish a sense of stability?
After a little over a year, I’ve encountered thousands of people, many languages, various cultures and a rainbow of different outlooks on life. Travel became my addiction after my first time stepping into a foreign destination. It gets in your blood, tapping into the innate desire for liberation. In my life, I have been a college drop-out, a receptionist, a server, a photographer at a children’s studio, and an owner of my own photography company. I’ve been a contributing editor for a local fashion magazine, an apprentice under a noteworthy celebrity stylist and I’ve networked nightly with many artists you might recognize, but whom I wont mention. Then most recently, I became a fashion merchandiser for several years for a major retailer, dressing windows and opening many new stores in the southeast. Nope, you won’t find stability in my resume either, ha! Now, my career is a lot simpler and yet more adventurous than ever. Now, I travel for a living.
When someone asks how will I establish a sense of stability, it’s almost like their putting me in the Spinster category. “Alex, what is a Cat Lady? …CORRECT! …I’ll take ‘Forever Alone’ for $200.” Regardless, I’ve had to come to terms with the fact that my life will look like very few others. Many will criticize it because they dont understand and thats ok. They weren’t built for this. They won’t understand that my acceptance of so-called unAmerican accommodations and lengthy periods away from home comes from a childhood fantasy to join the Peace Corps. Until you really explain, “actually, I don’t live anywhere,” it will sound like you’re just being a pretentious self- proclaimed citizen of the world. When in fact, I currently don’t rent or own a residence and I haven’t for several months (…but that’s a whole other story lol). And the fact that I attended six schools by the age of twelve, you might have assumed I was a military brat. Deductive reasoning will tell you, I was raised by a single parent. Since then, I learned to look at change as less menacing and more daring.
My hope is that my children will have unique experiences as well because travel will become their lifestyle by inheritance. They’ll have a passport before theyre even able to read it. Our weekends will look like the traveling circus minus the animal cruelty. “But how can you have a family without stability?” Well I have the option to work part time while being a full time parent. So it’s likely they’ll grow up with the belief that most adults only work three days per week and travel leisurely every month. If a happy wife means a happy life, then happy parents mean happy children.
Anything I have wanted to pursue, I didnt just put my foot in the water, I dove in deep and held on until I absolutely had to come up for air. For a few years, I even worked in an office learning firsthand what traditional “stability” really felt like, complete with all the bells and whistles that came with corporate promotions and office parties. Thats where I began to drown. Thats where I felt caged and hopeless despite financially moving upward. My number one complaint, aside from making some unseen CEO wealthy, was having very little time to myself. It just wasnt for me. I had to come to terms with being a jack of all trades at heart and a spirited wanderer. It took me a long time to realize that that was ok too.
Although my day-to-day duties don’t constantly require crisis management, I’m grateful for the freed mental space and energy, which forces self-discipline and focus, to pursue my own interests; hence the spawn of Curls & Carryons. With the opportunity for more freedom than ever before, my passions almost bubble over with all the possibilities and down- time available to me. The same way successful entrepreneurs take risks on themselves, I had to learn that my stability had to start from within. It was necessary to obtain an unshaken inner peace that would feed into how I really wanted to spend my time. I had to accept and truly love myself for exactly who I am rather than trying to conform to a predetermined mold. Self-love was the prerequisite for finding homeostasis in any space I occupy. My future, that I hope will include a family, will be healthy and positive because that is what I practice daily. So to answer the question of how I will secure a sense of stability is really about defining what stability means to me. To me, it means freedom. It means peace of mind.
Thanks for joining me 😘!